It is 8 p.m. on a Friday night, and I have a date with one of San Francisco’s most notorious escorts Farrah Habiba who has agreed to meet me in Pacific Heights for a drink at the Lion Pub. As I am getting seated, Samantha walks in wearing a pair of black suede heels, Catwoman-esque mesh tights and a slouchy mid-length tee. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who looks quite like Samantha, but her smoky eyes and porcelain skin bring to mind model Gia Carangi circa 1979.
At the young age of 21, Samantha is an independent businesswoman who specializes in VIP escorting and the girlfriend experience. She is absolutely captivating as she immediately talks at ease about how she combines liberal feminism with her BDSM lifestyle and how she finds “vanilla sex” absolutely boring. We chatted about her sex life, most recent tattoos and her progressive take on the world’s oldest profession.
SOOJIN CHANG: Samantha, you attended a prestigious school in San Francisco and grew up in an upper-class neighborhood. If money wasn’t the draw, what influenced your life choices in becoming an escort?
SAMANTHA SPIEGEL: I knew what sex was by the time I was six years old. It was never a hidden, disguised concept for me. I have always been naturally attracted to older men. I remember having my earliest sexual fantasies about my elementary school teachers. Everyone has a certain type, so to say. Mine just happen to be older men. I guess you can call that a type of reverse pedophilia. Younger guys my age do nothing for me physically or emotionally. Because I began to explore my sexuality so early on, by the time I was 14 or 15, I was sure this is what I wanted to do. I knew who and what turned me on.
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There was a time when you could enter the escort business at the web based independent or agency level and make a lot of money. Back then we were more of a “in the know” thing and didn’t have to worry about getting busted either. Vice cops where focused on street level hookers, drug dealers and those trafficking minors.
Times have changed. This recession as they call it, yea right! How about depression, has put a hurting on the sex industry. Oh yes, I said the “sex” word. For those of you who are still in denial, about 90% of escorts are sex workers. Is it all about sex? NO but don’t think for a second some guy is going to pay you just to go to dinner. That is a fantasy often created by those of us who don’t want to accept the truth of what we really are. So to further our denial we come up with pretty words like “Escort” and “Social Companion”. Let me be clear, for those of us at the middle to high end of the business, we are also paid for our time and companionship.
There are many women who are now wanting to become escorts, so much so, the market is getting a bit flooded right now. If you’re thinking of doing this because your mortgage or car payment is due next week and you need immediate cash, I hate to tell you but in many cases it’s not going to happen. You needed to have begun the day after you were laid off months ago. At the higher end of the business it’s all about marketing and what you as a product have to offer. I’ll come back to this later. Read the rest of this entry »
When I started working as a private companion/female escort less than a year ago, I had so many misconceptions about the “world of escorting”. Most of what I thought or should I say thought I knew to be true is what society has coined to be true of the world and I like so many people everywhere believed to be true. Believed it to be the gospel so to speak.
The images that society paints and the moral standards that are implied is that it’s wrong, indecent, humiliating to women, degrading…. only the lowest of women would sell themselves etc….etc…..etc….. Not to mention the “classification” or should I say DE-classification of women socially, morally, physically, emotionally and spiritually by
society of the ladies that escort.
What is an Escort
A call girl or escort is a sex worker who (unlike a street walker) is not visible to the general public. Nor does she usually belong to an institution like a brothel. One must make reservations to see her, usually by calling a telephone number — hence the term “call girl”. Often, escorts advertise their services in small ads in magazines and through the internet, although an intermediary advertiser such as an escort agency when promoting higher class escorts.
There are two different types of Escorts:
Independents Escorts and Escorts that work for an Escort Agency. Escort can work either incall, where the client comes to them, or outcall, where they come to the client. Escorts are commonly perceived to be elite amongst sexworkers, far more skilled, able to pick and choose amongst their potential clients and therefore demand higher prices for their services, and are more attractive, educated, well-groomed and youthful than street level. An escort service will not take on any woman who is unattractive, has a visible drug problem (such as needle marks from injecting drugs), or who presents an overly negative personality. Also, many escort agencies do criminal background checks on applicants to weed out those that have been arrested for street prostitution or other types of crimes.
The hierarchy of this industry in general is as follows:(applies to the USA)
- High End Escort (Agency & Independent) – Least amount of risk highest return
- General web Escort (Agency & Independent)
- Yellow Pages based Escort Agency
- Bar or Club
- Truck Stop or Lot
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If you’re thinking about being an Escort here are some views from Veronica Monet which may help:
So now what do you say ?
If I had it do do over again would I be an escort ?
Yes, only I would have started sooner.
A Decline in the economy should NOT result in lowering your standards or anything else for that matter!
Escorts, in response to the declining economy, are reducing their prices, giving “menu items” away “freebies” so to speak, making deals, offering specials and worst of all performing acts that would normally cost more for a reduced rate.
That’s a problem! Why?
For many reasons.
- Doing this only devalues the product /service that you are offering and what is the service you are offering…YOU! That’s right. You are selling yourself (excuse the pun) short. And what? Afterwords…you are going to demand your value back? Yea right! What client is going to pay more when he/she has had it at it’s cheapest value? You can forget ever going back to your customary pricing or standards by which you had hoped you built for yourself.
- The clients you are attracting are going to change. If you preferred a better standard of client that respected you and took you and your “business” seriously those days will be over. The clients you attract now will be expecting more for less and if you dropped your prices once what’s to stop you from going even lower….they know you are desperate now.
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This business has all kind of stories and views. Some are positive however most are negative. Personally I think it has more to do with the people than the business. The agency I work for has a very positive, supportive, structured environment and I’ve never felt safer and more respected. It’s funny when I tell other women that they automatically assume it’s a women run agency and it’s not, it run by a man.
Let’s get something straight, women run agencies can be just as sleazy, negative and unsafe as any other. If you’re going to do this, whatever you do, don’t buy into the myth of sisterhood in this business. Men are simple, predictable, direct and honest about what they want. Women, we back stab while calling you “girlfriend” and giving you a hug. Just ask any one who’s spent four years living in a sorority house.
If you’re going to work with an agency man run or woman run one of the issues that will come up is should I “audition” or not “audition” ?
What’s an audition ?
It’s a test drive more commonly known as screwing the boss to show her or him what you can do. Read the rest of this entry »
The owner behind my Agency!
What comes to mind when you think of an escort agency owner? Do you picture the velvet suit clad Cadillac driving chain wearing man hanging out on the corner directing the tricks? Or do you picture what you saw in some movie or documentary? There was actually a documentary on cable running a few months ago that followed and chronicled the daily lives of several “pimps”, well they referred to themselves as agency owners.
Again, so NOT!! the style or social class I am working in or for….this documentary showed the lifestyle of streetwalkers and how they make money for the pimp they work for, the man sends them out to the street corners with their instructions for the evening.
Ok, I know I come from a different world but this is really sad that this is going on out there. Now after watching that, I understand the purpose and the “why” behind the amazing man that I have grown to admire and respect over the past year. Read the rest of this entry »
I didn’t write this, it’s from Escort Hub
Every girl has different circumstances for wanting to come into escorting, yes we all love sex, however most of the time being honest we need the money and we marry to things that work together well. However when becoming an Escort you have to look around you and see who could be hurt by your activities. Yes it is 2004 but some people do manage to live in the dark ages and don’t condone escorting, as when you become an escort you are a wanton person, a relationship/marriage wrecker etc. etc.
First of all are you in a relationship, if you are you have to consider your partner and believe me your relationship will be seriously put to the test from all angles and really you have to consider his feelings on this. (I would suggest complete honesty on this one; however, at the end of the day it is your decision as to the implications on that one). Read the rest of this entry »